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David Gerken's avatar

Thank you, Tamy! You're so right...simple, but not easy. Yet worth every drop of energy expended.

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David Gerken's avatar

Thanks for the honesty, Jane. Singer also teaches that there is NEVER a reason to feel shame for our actions, no matter we've done. It does us no good. The healthiest path is to do our best to learn from our actions, whether we liked them or not, and then forge ahead with our lives, smarter and wiser for having had those experiences. From your bio, looks like you've done quite well for yourself since your teen years!

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Tamy Faierman M.D.'s avatar

Wonderful article, David.

Simple, not easy.

But the freedom on the other side of taking FULL responsibility for one’s emotional world is worth every tear. 👍✨👏💕

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Jane Mundy's avatar

Thanks for your words of wisdom David. My parents were divorced when I was 15 and two years later, I was working as a 'call girl'. That was 50 years ago, and advice like yours helps me deal with the shame.

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