Great stuff! Ironically, I was just having a reparenting session with my 11-year-old self about a situation where I got really scared about potentially being rejected and I overreacted because my mom was super self-conscious and worried incessantly about what other people thought of her. I internalized her messages on this subject.
Those 11 year-old feelings are still buried inside of me, at 66, and they come roaring out whenever my ego mind tells me that I'm in a situation that could result in my being rejected or abandoned. I tried to tell my 11 year-old self today that it's okay. It's not your fault. You were just developing a protective mechanism you had no idea was happening. And the life lesson I shared was how being true to yourself, no matter what, is one of the best things you can learn in life, no matter what other people might think. I then told him I loved him and would ALWAYS be there to support and love him, no matter what.
Next time the feelings come up, I hope I can be better at giving them space and letting them go.
Great stuff! Ironically, I was just having a reparenting session with my 11-year-old self about a situation where I got really scared about potentially being rejected and I overreacted because my mom was super self-conscious and worried incessantly about what other people thought of her. I internalized her messages on this subject.
Those 11 year-old feelings are still buried inside of me, at 66, and they come roaring out whenever my ego mind tells me that I'm in a situation that could result in my being rejected or abandoned. I tried to tell my 11 year-old self today that it's okay. It's not your fault. You were just developing a protective mechanism you had no idea was happening. And the life lesson I shared was how being true to yourself, no matter what, is one of the best things you can learn in life, no matter what other people might think. I then told him I loved him and would ALWAYS be there to support and love him, no matter what.
Next time the feelings come up, I hope I can be better at giving them space and letting them go.
Wow. One of the best comments I’ve ever gotten. So glad you’re doing this, Ken. Keep at it!